Having sex is a huge decision. You may want to think about these things:

• Why am I having sex?
• How would I feel if I got a sexually transmitted disease (STD)?
• What would happen if I got pregnant?
• Am I having sex to feel good about myself?
• Am I having sex to feel loved?

It can be hard to tell your partner that you don’t want to have sex. But you have the right to:

• Say that you are not ready
• Choose if and when you want to have sex, without feeling pressured
• Tell someone to stop
• Protect yourself from getting a disease
• Protect yourself from getting pregnant
• Not have sex
• Be treated with respect and feel safe

When making a decision... think of STAR.

S = Stop (What is the decision?)
T = Think (What are the choices/risks?)
A = Act (Act on your decision)
R = Reflect (Reflect on the results)